Lifestyle Sites – Our Findings for Swing Lifestyle Websites

As I wrote and subsequently edited the swinging article, we dabbled with multiple swinger lifestyle sites on the internet and learned that some are pretty good, while many are simply bad or scams. Read on to learn what we found and see what we consider the best sites for the swinging lifestyle.

Evaluation Strategy of Lifestyle Sites

Many factors were considered as we evaluated the lifestyle sites; the most important being the price and popularity, followed closely by features.


Most of the sites offer “free” memberships. Free members are usually very limited on the websites, but can at least have basic profiles. For the most part, the free memberships are nearly worthless, however if you want to maintain your identity in the lifestyle, creating free memberships with the same profile name as your preferred site will help.

We believe paying for membership at a site is fair as long as the price is reasonable and the features and popularity of the site warrant the cost. Some lifestyle members will not talk to persons that have free accounts, to avoid scammers and picture collectors.

You may notice that some lifestyle websites charge close to or slightly more for “lifetime” access as they would for a prepaid year. I believe this is to encourage a high-priced commitment up front, while taking advantage of the unsure with high monthly fees. Many of these sites offer free trials for a few days. Use this time to thoroughly evaluate the site and determine if it is right for you.

Some of the lifestyle websites are outrageously priced, with the most expensive we found being Adult Friend Finder at up to US$480, plus an optional US$240 to allow free members to access your own profile. That’s US$720 for a full membership, automatically renewed.1 They do not offer a lifetime package, but I imagine if they do in the future, it will be horribly expensive.

If a site shows advertisements on paid member pages, this reduces the value of the site in my opinion. Wife Swapping is the worst for this, with Live Cam (fee based) and other advertisements within search results. These cam and other advertisements on Wife Swapping are only slightly different in appearance than actual search results. Very deceptive.

Lifestyle Lounge is among the most expensive sites I have evaluated in the swing lifestyle. When I asked them about it, they actually told me that their premium rates are intentional to filter out lowscale demographics. Their web-site is poorly designed and slow. I don’t know how they are spending the money, but it isn’t on the technology. Their evaluation period is extremely limited, and they delete profiles that do not pay for an extended. This latter point is unusual for lifestyle websites, since they need high membership numbers to garner sales. Adult Friend Finder is the worst that I found for keeping inactive profiles.


Website features are the tools and layout of the site which impact its usefulness. A site needs to have an intuitive design and function well.

Searching and browsing

The ability to search for members is essential. A good site will have a search engine that allows fine tuning by location and distance, and profile type. A great site will have fine tuning like smoking preference, profiles that have pictures and last login date. Searching for a profile name is a great function on the better sites. Sometimes it is difficult to find the profile of someone you met at a party, for example.

Useful Profile Data

Relevant information needs to be present in profiles, such as join date, last login date, membership type, and location. It doesn’t make sense to contact a member that hasn’t been on their account in several months, especially a free member who visited once and likely is not returning. It is just as silly to contact a member that is thousands of miles away.

Other useful profile data is basic statistics and lifestyle preferences. The sites with fun questionnaires help to establish compatibility.


A couple of the sites offer not only electronic mail communication, but an instant messenger type tool and maybe even chat rooms as well. When prospective profiles are online, being able to have a casual conversation helps with determining a fit. A couple of the sites also have web cam functionality to boost communication features.


Most people in the lifestyle wish to be discreet. Protecting intimate pictures and other data is critical for lifestyle websites. Additionally, the ability to “hide” from certain profile types and block trouble-causing profiles is essential.

Some of the sites allow web crawlers and general public visibility for profiles, while other sites only allow access to visitors that are logged onto the site. Some actually give each profile owner the ability to decide their visibility, including being “featured” on a site’s main page.


Lifestyle sites are worthless without members, especially local members. When evaluating the popularity of a site, we are considering the site as a couple for South-Eastern Pennsylvania and Central New Jersey area, since that is where we reside. The number of active profiles and inactive profiles were measured and used to determine the popularity of the website.

Avoid Scams

We have found by experience that some of the lifestyle websites have automated mechanisms to trick free members into upgrading their membership.

Adult Friend Finder (aka Passion and SwapFinder), for example, appears to be one of these sites that sends bogus contact requests from members in the area; even inactive accounts. Free member messages are blurred, so you can’t read the received message without upgrading, and naturally cannot respond either. Within 10 minutes of registering, we received five contact requests on Passion and four on SwapFinder. Bear in mind – we didn’t upload pictures or put much information in the profile yet. In fact, we hadn’t even been notified our profile was approved until about an hour later.

Another example is Swing Seekers. About a week after creating our account, we received a message from ourselves. Apparently, we thought we could be a match. This site has so few local members, that the only match was ourselves. Of course, since we are free members we are not able to respond.

There is a bit of irony in their “Warning” to watch out for scammers.

To be honest, Swingers Date Club (SDC) successfully tricked us into paying for a membership using a similar mechanism. We would receive friend invites and messages from profiles that matched our “seeking” setting. Once we purchased a membership, these stopped and those same people have not responded to any follow-up messages from us. At least SDC allows us to turn off the automatic renewal; many do not.

Comparison Chart

Site NameYearly Cost (US$)Free accountsPopularityFeaturesPrivacy
Adult Friend Finder$240 to $720
Severely limited
Pay to view profiles.
Upgrade to read mail.
Mostly MenVery Good
AirTight Lifestyle
N/ANot limited.OkayOkayOkay
AltPlayground$140 to $204None.PoorGoodPoor
Dating Kinky$75 to $120Slightly limitedPoorOkayOkay
Double Date Nation$150 to $240Very LimitedPoorGoodPoor
FabSwingers$45 to $60Limited.Very GoodVery GoodVery Good
Fet Life$60
Lifetime $240
Slightly limited.
No video access.
Recent posts only.
Hot Wife Hub$30 to $60Limited.
No video or chat access.
Kasidie$130 to $240
Very limitedGoodVery GoodGood
Lifestyle Lounge$189 to $300
Lifetime $500
Evaluation only.
Severely limited.
Local Real Swingers$84 to $336
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Love Voodoo
$120 to $215
Lifetime $150
Upgrade to send mail or chat.
MeWeN/ANot limited.OkayOkayOkay
Naughty Swingers$21No Free AccountsPoorPoorPoor
(aka AFF)
$240 to $480Severely Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Very GoodGoodGood
Quiver$100 to $144
Slightly limited
No video or private access.
OkayGoodVery Good
Real Swingers$84 to $336Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Mostly MenOkayPoor
RockTie$60 to $120
Lifetime $95
Severely limited.
No event, nude pic, friends, mail or search access.
SAF Social$120 to $240Slightly limited.PoorMediocreOkay
SDC$120 to $300
Lifetime $250
Very limitedPoorMediocreOkay
Swap Finder
(aka AFF)
$240 to $480Severely Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Very GoodGoodGood
Swing Lifestyle$70 to $180
Lifetime $150
Severely Limited.
No nude pic access or sending mail.
ExcellentVery GoodVery Good
Swing Seekers$160 to $360
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Mostly MenOkayPoor
Swing Social$120 to $180Severely Limited.PoorOkayPoor
Swing Towns$69 to $204
Lifetime $129
Slightly limited.
Upgrade for advanced tools.
OkayMediocreVery Good
Swinger Chat City$60 to $336
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Swingers Central$84 to $336
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Swingers HeavenUnsure - Free at the momentNot limited yetOkayOkayOkay
Swingers Hub$99Not limited.PoorPoorPoor
Swinging Couples Dating$84 to $336
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Swinging Sex Partners$207 to $432
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
True Swingers$45 to $80
Lifetime $130
Slightly limited.
Limited number of pic and profile views. Limited mail per hour.
Mostly MenGoodGood
Wife Swapping$84 to $336
No access to pics.
Limited mail per day.
Limited search.

Pricing information is based on the monthly subscription rate for one year to the annual rate if offered. The pricing is factual at the time this article was written/updated and is rounded up to an even US Dollar for comparison purposes. Websites may change their pricing schema, including the offer of promotions at their will and out of control of me.

Final Word on Lifestyle Sites

After careful evaluation and experience on the lifestyle sites, I have found that Swing Lifestyle and Fab Swingers are the winners for our area, with Kasidie right behind them. Quiver scored very well in performance and features, and is extremely popular in Texas. All four deserve your attention if you are serious about the lifestyle.

lifestyle sites

The “not bad” sites that we evaluated are Love Voodoo (Dissolved) and Swing Towns. New comer Naughty Swingers (Mid-Atlantic based) gets the award for up and coming. We’re keeping an eye on them, but right now they seem to be heavily focused to their own region and the privacy filters are severely lacking.

True Swingers (related to True Nudists) and RockTie have fallen stale. Not much activity there.

Fetlife is very busy, but it consists of a lot of people advertising their onlyfans pages.

Update August 16, 2019Swing Towns has been reduced in our scoring. They sent us meetup notices from ourself. We’ll let them ride as a “not bad” site.

Update October 24, 2020 – Love Voodoo has been merged with AltPlayground, without honoring Love Voodoo membership. Lifetime accounts were made three months long, because they “have no obligation” to honor LoveVoodoo memberships. AltPlayground is expensive for its lower popularity and poor privacy features. They do not have any free membership level – not even for evaluation.

The worst sites, based on our experience and opinion, are Swingers Hub (which has been worse in 2021), Adult Friend Finder (aka Passion and SwapFinder), Swing Seekers and Hotwife Hub.

Watch out for the over-priced scamming sites. Based on behaviors, including cross-advertising, we will not be returning to Swinging Couples Dating ( a play on Swingers Date Club?), Local Real Swingers, Real Swingers or Swinger Chat City.

Many sites claim to be “totally free”, but yet drastically restrict free members, allowing no access to send messages, look at member pictures and more (or less, depending on your disposition). Some sites, despite being paid for membership still display advertisements.

AirTight Lifestyle dropped from the face of the earth near the end of January 2020. We’re not surprised as the site had very little activity and “okay” features.

Top 5 Lifestyle Sites

The following top five ranking is based on performance, features, including privacy and popularity. These sites are recommended for people venturing in the Swing Lifestyle.

  1. Swing Lifestyle
  2. Fab Swingers
  3. Kasidie
  4. Quiver
  5. Love Voodoo

  1. Price shown is annualized, based on monthly charges.

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