Lifestyle Sites – Our Findings for Swing Lifestyle Websites

As I wrote and subsequently edited the swinging article, we dabbled with multiple swinger lifestyle sites on the internet and learned that some are pretty good, while many are simply bad or scams. Read on to learn what we found and see what we consider the best sites for the lifestyle.

Evaluation Strategy of Lifestyle Sites

Many factors were considered as we evaluated the lifestyle sites; the most important being the price and popularity, followed closely by features.

Price

Most of the sites offer “free” memberships. Free members are usually very limited on the websites, but can at least have basic profiles. For the most part, the free memberships are nearly worthless, however if you want to maintain your identity in the lifestyle, creating free memberships with the same profile name as your preferred site will help.

We believe paying for membership at a site is reasonable as long as the price is reasonable and the features and popularity of the site warrant the cost. Some lifestyle members will not talk to persons that have free accounts, to avoid scammers and picture collectors.

You may notice that some lifestyle websites charge close to or slightly more for “lifetime” access as they would for a prepaid year. I believe this is to encourage a high-priced commitment up front, while taking advantage of the unsure with high monthly fees. Many of these sites offer free trials for a few days. Use this time to thoroughly evaluate the site and determine if it is right for you.

Some of the lifestyle websites are outrageously priced, with the most expensive we found being Adult Friend Finder at up to US$480, plus an optional US$240 to allow free members to access your own profile. That’s US$720 for a full membership, automatically renewed.1 Price shown is annualized, based on monthly charges. They do not offer a lifetime package, but I imagine if they do in the future, it will be horribly expensive.

If a site shows advertisements on paid member pages, this reduces the value of the site in my opinion. Wife Swapping is the worst for this, with Live Cam and other advertisements within search results.

Features

Website features are the tools and layout of the site which impact its usefulness. A site needs to have an intuitive design and function well.

Searching and browsing

The ability to search for members is essential. A good site will have a search engine that allows fine tuning by location and distance, and profile type. A great site will have fine tuning like smoking preference, profiles that have pictures and last login date.

Useful Profile Data

Relevant information needs to be present in profiles, such as join date, last login date, membership type, and location. It doesn’t make sense to contact a member that hasn’t been on their account in several months, especially a free member who visited once and likely is not returning.

Communications

A couple of the sites offer not only mail communication, but an instant messenger type tool as well. When prospective profiles are online, being able to have a casual conversation helps with determining a fit. A couple of the sites also have web cam functionality to boost this ability.

Privacy

Most people in the lifestyle wish to be discreet. Protecting intimate pictures and other data is critical for lifestyle websites. Additionally, the ability to “hide” from certain profile types and block trouble-causing profiles is essential.

Popularity

Lifestyle sites are worthless without members, especially local members. When evaluating the popularity of a site, we are considering the site as a couple for South-Eastern Pennsylvania and Central New Jersey area, since that is where we reside.

Avoid Scams

We have found by experience that some of the lifestyle websites have automated mechanisms to trick free members into upgrading their membership.

Adult Friend Finder, for example, appears to be one of these sites that sends bogus contact requests from members in the area. Free member messages are blurred, so you can’t read the received message without upgrading, and naturally cannot respond either. Within 10 minutes of registering, we received five contact requests. Bear in mind – we didn’t upload pictures or put much information in the profile yet. In fact, we hadn’t even been notified our profile was approved until about an hour later.

Another example is Swing Seekers. About a week after creating our account, we received a message from ourselves. Apparently, we thought we could be a match. This site has so few local members, that the only match was ourselves. Of course, since we are free members we are not able to respond.

To be honest, Swingers Date Club (SDC) successfully tricked us into paying for a membership using a similar mechanism. We would receive friend invites and messages from profiles that matched our “seeking” setting. Once we purchased a membership, these stopped and those same people have not responded to any follow-up messages from us. At least SDC allows us to turn off the automatic renewal; most do not.

Comparison Chart

Site NameYearly Cost (US$)Free accountsPopularityFeaturesPrivacy
Adult Friend Finder$240 to $720
Auto-renewing
Severely limited
Pay to view profiles.
Upgrade to read mail.
Mostly MenVery Good
Good
FabSwingers$45 to $60Limited.Very GoodVery GoodVery Good
Fet Life$60
Lifetime $240
Slightly limited.
No video access.
Recent posts only.
PoorOkayOkay
Hot Wife Hub$30 to $60Limited.
No video or chat access.
PoorPoorOkay
Local Real Swingers$84 to $336
Auto-renewing
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
PoorOkayPoor
Love Voodoo$120 to $215
Lifetime $150
Limited.
Upgrade to send mail or chat.
OkayGoodOkay
Quiver$100 to $144
Auto-renewing
Slightly limited
No video or private access.
OkayGoodVery Good
Real Swingers$84 to $336Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Mostly MenOkayPoor
RockTie$60 to $120
Lifetime $95
Severely limited.
No event, nude pic, friends, mail or search access.
OkayOkayOkay
SDC$120 to $300
Lifetime $250
Very limitedPoorMediocreOkay
Swing Lifestyle$70 to $180
Lifetime $150
Limited.
No nude pic access or sending mail.
ExcellentVery GoodVery Good
Swing Seekers$160 to $360
Auto-renewing
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
Mostly MenOkayPoor
Swing Towns$69 to $204
Lifetime $129
Slightly limited.
Upgrade for advanced tools.
GoodOkayVery Good
Swingers Central$84 to $336
Auto-renewing
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
PoorOkayPoor
Swinging Chat City$60 to $336
Auto-renewing
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
PoorOkayPoor
Swinging Couples Dating$84 to $336
Auto-renewing
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
PoorOkayPoor
Swinging Sex Partners$207 to $432
Auto-renewing
Very Limited.
No access to send mail or view pics.
PoorOkayPoor
True Swingers$45 to $80
Auto-renewing
Lifetime $130
Slightly limited.
Limited number of pic and profile views. Limited mail per hour.
Mostly MenGoodGood
Wife Swapping$84 to $336
Auto-renew
Limited.
No access to pics.
Limited mail per day.
Limited search.
OkayOkayPoor

Pricing information is factual at the time this article was written and is rounded up to an even US Dollar for comparison purposes. Websites may change their pricing schema, including the offer of promotions at their will and out of control of me.

Final Word on Lifestyle Sites

After careful evaluation and experience on the lifestyle sites, we have found that Swing Lifestyle and Fab Swingers are the winners for our area, though Quiver and Swing Towns scored very well also.

lifestyle sites

The “not bad” sites that we evaluated are Love Voodoo and True Swingers (related to True Nudists). RockTie gets the award for up and coming. We’re keeping an eye on them!

The worst sites, based on our experience and my opinion, are Adult Friend Finder, Swing Seekers and Swingers Date Club (not quite as bad as the others).

Watch out for the over-priced scamming sites. Based on behaviors, including cross-advertising, we will not be returning to Swinging Couples Dating ( a play on Swingers Date Club?), Local Real Swingers, Real Swingers or Swinger Chat City. These all claim to be “totally free”, but yet drastically restrict free members, allowing no access to send messages, look at member pictures and more (or less, depending on your disposition)

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1. Price shown is annualized, based on monthly charges.

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