The following terms and definitions are common in the swinging lifestyle. Naturally, some of these lifestyle definitions will overlap into personals and other unrelated areas – some may have completely different meanings.
| Term/Acronym | Definition/Meaning |
|---|---|
| 69 | Just like the number suggest, the two people are lying with their heads lined up with their partners genitals for oral stimulation. |
| 420 | Code for Marijuana use. Often used as "420 friendly". |
| ABS | Adult Book Store |
| AC/DC | Not the band. Like the electric flow, this can mean bisexual - taking it both ways. |
| AFF | Adult Friend Finder web-site. |
| AIDS | Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome. Caused by HIV. |
| airtight | All orifices filled at the same - mouth, vagina and anus. |
| Anilingus | Stimulation of the anus by use of tongue and mouth. Also known as rimming. |
| Arse | Western European slang for the buttocks. |
| ASP | Adult Service Provider |
| Ass Play | Sexual behaviors involving the anus. |
| ATF | All Time Favorite |
| ATM | Ass To Mouth. Transferring penis from anal penetration to oral. |
| Aunt Flo | Common reference for a woman's period. |
| Aussie Kiss | Cunnilingus. Oral sex on a woman. Think "Kiss down under". |
| AVS | Adult Video Store |
| Bare Back | Sex without a condom. Often abbreviated "BB" or shown without a space "Bareback". |
| BBACIA | Bare Back Anal, Cum In Ass - Anal Intercourse, no condom, with internal ejaculation |
| BBBJ | Bare Back Blow Job. Fellatio without a condom. |
| BBC | Big Black Cock. |
| BBFS | Bare Back Full Swap/Service |
| BBW | Big Beautiful Woman. Usually very large, well endowed woman. |
| BCD | Behind Closed Doors |
| BDSM | Bondage, Discipline, Sex and Masochism. |
| BF | Boy Friend |
| Bi | Bisexual. Person that enjoys sex with members of their own and opposite gender. |
| Bi-Curious | Someone that is interested or open to same gender sexual contact. |
| BJ | Blow Job |
| Blackhole | Anus |
| BLS | Ball Licking and Sucking |
| Blue Toast | Penis covered in soap and rubbed between butt cheeks in the shower. Sometimes called a Soapy Italian. May refer to using mouthwash. |
| Bottom | Person in the submissive role in a dominant relationship. Person receiving the sexual act in a same gender relations. |
| BSW | Black Street Walker |
| Bukkake | Fetish where multiple men ejaculate onto a single recipient, typically on their face. |
| Bull | Single man included in a couple's or group's sexual relations. |
| Butt Plug | A sex toy that is inserted into the anus. It may be used for decoration, personal pleasure or to prepare for anal sex. |
| BWC | Big White Cock |
| Camel toe | When women wear tight clothes, the anatomical features of her labia creates an image similar to the "toes" of a camel. |
| Cameltoe Slide | The act of grinding a man's penis using just the outside parts of a women's genitalia. |
| Catcher | Someone who bottoms or is submissive. |
| CBB | Cock and Ball Bondage |
| CBJ | Covered (condom) Blow Job |
| CBT | Cock and Ball Torture |
| CD | Cross Dresser |
| CG | Cow Girl sexual position with girl on top face to face |
| Chickenhawk | The gay male equivalent of a cougar, where the older man prefers to have sex with significantly younger male partners. |
| CIM | Cum In Mouth |
| CIP | Cum in Pussy. Also known as a creampie. |
| CIS | Someone whose sexual identity matches their gender at birth. (Not bi, gay or transgender) |
| CL | CraigsList |
| Clean | Someone that is drug and disease free. |
| CMD | Carpet Matches Drapes. Color of pubic hair is same as hair on head. Indicates natural hair color. |
| Cockring | A small ring usually made of leather, metal or flexible plastic/rubber that is placed at the base of the penis and sometimes testicles to restrict blood from escaping the penis. Helps with maintaining an erection in some men. |
| Cornhole | Term used for the anus. |
| Cougar | An older woman that seeks sex with much younger men. |
| Cowgirl | Girl on top, straddling his hips and facing him, like riding a horse. |
| Cream pie | Ejaculation inside the vagina or other orifice, without use of a condom. Sometimes the space is omitted, as Creampie. |
| Crop | Whip-like tool used for pain and sound to enhance sexual pleasure in BDSM. |
| crossing swords | When two men's penis come in contact during sex with a third partner, typically during double penetration. |
| CTS | CamelToe Slide. The act of rubbing a woman's labia against a penis without penetration. |
| Cuckold | A man that enjoys watching his wife have sex with other people. |
| Cum | Slang for male ejaculate. Slang for natural vaginal lubrication. |
| Cum Slut | A person who enjoys receiving cum, typically in the mouth and swallowing, or some other orifice. |
| Cum Swap | The act of capturing the ejaculate in an orifice and then transfering to another person. |
| Cumming | Reaching orgasm |
| Cunnilingus | Oral sex perfomed on a female's genitals. |
| Cut | Used to identify that a penis has been circumcised. An uncircumcised penis is referred to as Uncut. |
| Cybersex | Typically done via webcam or cell phone camera, the act of fantasizing and mutual self-masturbation over the internet. Similar to phone sex. |
| Daisy Chain | Group sex where each person is connected to the next sexually, creating a chain or a train. |
| DAP | Double Anal Penetration |
| Darkroom | A location that has little to no light for anonymous sexual activities. |
| DATY | Dining At The Y. Cunnilingus. |
| DDF | Drug and Disease Free. |
| DDG | Drop Dead Gorgeous |
| Deep Throat | Orally taking a penis such that it enters the recipient's throat. |
| DFK | Deep French Kissing |
| Dildo | A sex toy, often shaped like a penis, for inserting into orifices. |
| DIY | Do It Yourself. Masturbation. |
| Doggie Style | Sexual position where the receiver is on hands and knees, similar to a doggy. |
| Dogging | Having sex in public places. Not to be confused with Doggy Style. |
| Dom | Dominant, sometimes specific to male. |
| Domme | Female Dominant. |
| Doubles | A threesome, usually two ladies and one guy. |
| DP | Double Penetration. Two penises in the same person, usually one in the vagina and one anal at the same time. |
| Dry | Also known as V-safe. A man that has had a vasectomy, resulting in no sperm within the semen. |
| DS | Doggie Style. Sexual position where the receiver is on hands and knees like a dog. |
| DT | Deep Throat. |
| DTE | Down To Earth |
| DTF | Down To Fuck |
| DVP | Double Vaginal Penetration. Two penises in the same vagina at the same time. |
| ED | Erectile Dysfunction. The inability to obtain or maintain an erection. |
| Edging | The act of sexual play where repeatedly stopping just before orgasm, in an effort to prolong the sensation. |
| Endowed | Usually used in reference to the size or portion (endowment) of a penis or breasts. May be interchanged with "hung". |
| English | Spanked or masochism |
| ENM | Ethically Non-Monogamous. A consensually open relationship, allowing each partner to have relations with other people. |
| Exhibitionist | Person that likes to be watched naked and/or having sex. |
| Facial | Male ejaculate on the face of a sexual partner. |
| FBSM | Full Body Sensual Massage. |
| Felching | The act of sucking semen out of an orifice where it was deposited. |
| Fetish | Strong desire for a certain body part or sexual act. |
| FFM / FMF | A threesome with two females and one male. |
| Frot | The act of rubbing penises together for sexual pleasure. |
| FS | Full Service. Full Swap. |
| FTM | Female To Male. Person transitioning from female to male gender. |
| Fuck Buddy | Someone that is used regularly for sex, but are not in a relation otherwise. |
| Full Swap | Couples that allow full sex, including intercourse, with swapped partners. |
| FWB | Friends with Benefits |
| Gangbang | Sexual intercourse with multiple partners in one session. Typically multiple men to one woman. |
| GBF | Gay Black Female |
| GBM | Gay Black Male |
| GFE | Girl Friend Experience |
| GG | Gonnorreia girl. Someone that carries sexually transmitted disease. |
| GILF | Grandmother I'd Like to Fuck. Much older woman that is sexy. |
| Gloryhole | Hole in the wall between booths or rooms, intended for having sexual relations through the hole. |
| Glove | Condom |
| Golden Shower | Urinating on a sexual partner. Also called Water Sports. |
| Greek | Anal sex |
| Group Sex | Sexual activities among four or more people. |
| GS | Golden Shower. urination in sexual activities. |
| GSM | G-Spot Massage |
| GWF | Gay White Female |
| GWM | Gay White Male |
| Half & Half | Oral sex followed with intercourse to completion. |
| Half-mast | When a penis is not fully erect. Also referred to as semi. |
| Hall Pass | When a member of a couple are permitted to have sexual relations outside the relationship, without the other member present/participating. |
| harbour | The space between a women's breasts - where someone would motor-boat. |
| Hardwood Floors | Clean shaven genitals. |
| Hat | Condom |
| Hedonist | A person who's primary goal is to receive sexual pleasure. |
| Herb Friendly | Allows marijuana use. |
| HIV | Human Immunodeficiency Virus. Transferable through sex and other means. |
| Hogging | The act of taking advantage of obese women with low self-esteem for sexual pleasure. Not to be confused with fat fetishists that are sexually attracted to obese women's bodies. |
| Host | Often interchanged with "accom" (accommodate), the person/place that provides space for play. |
| Hot Wife | Woman looking to have sex with a man other than her husband, but with his knowledge. He sometimes watches. |
| HP | Hall Pass. Person has permission from their significant other to play alone without them. |
| HSV | Herpes Simplex Virus. Sexually transmitted disease. |
| HWP | Height and Weight Proportional |
| ISO | Is Seeking Out. In Search Of. |
| Italian | Penis rubbed between butt cheeks. |
| Jizz | Slang for male ejaculate. |
| K9 | Sexual position where the receiver is on hands and knees, and their partner enters from behind them. Also known as doggie style. |
| Landing strip | Pubic hair is trimmed and shaved to create a straight, narrow line. Also called a mohawk. |
| LDH | Low Dollar Hooker. |
| LFK | Light French Kissing. |
| LSW | Latina Street Walker |
| LTR | Long Term Relationship |
| Mamasan | An authoritative woman in an Asian brothel or nightclub. |
| MBC | Married Black Couple |
| Menage a Trios | A French term for three people having sex together. A threesome. |
| Merkin | A wig-like accessory for the pubic region. |
| MFM | A threesome with two males and one female. Also MMF, but infers bisexual behavior. |
| MFP | Meet For Pleasure. Sexual meeting without personal interaction. |
| MG or M&G | Meet and Greet. Gathering often held at a public location for swingers to meet new people. Rarely is there on-premise play. |
| MILF | Mother I'd Like to Fuck. Mid-life or older woman that is very attractive. |
| Mish | Missionary sex position. The partners are face to face, with one laying on their back and their partner enters from between their legs. |
| Mohawk | Thin strip of pubic hair, often called a landing strip. |
| Moresome | Sexual relations involving four or more people. |
| motor-boat | When a person places their face between a women's breasts, shaking their head back and forth while blowing through their pursed lips (like a motor). Sometimes performed between butt cheeks. |
| MSOG | Multiple Shots On Goal. Ability to ejaculate multiple times in one session. |
| MTF | Male To Female. Person transitioning from male to female gender. |
| Muff Diving | Slang for cunnilingus. |
| Multiple bell ringing | Multi-orgasmic |
| MWC | Married White Couple |
| No Holes Barred | A variation on "No Holds Barred", any orifice of the person is available to sexual use. |
| Nooner | Sex during lunch or early afternoon, sometimes called afternoon delight. |
| NS | Non-smoking |
| NSA | No Strings Attached. Common abbreviation for persons looking for sex without a relationship. |
| NSFW | Not Safe For Work |
| Nut | Refers to the testicle(s) and often used to indicate ejaculation (Nutted, bust a nut) |
| Nymphomaniac | A person, typically female, that has an uncontrollable desire to have a lot of sex. |
| Off Premise | Social places for meeting up, but sexual relations are not permitted at the location. Typical for a "Meet and Greet". |
| On Premise | Social places where sexual relations can occur at the location. |
| ONS | One Night Stand |
| Oreo | Threesome with a girl between two guys, usually with double penetration. Sometimes used to refer to interracial MFM. |
| Orgy | Group sex. These tend to be larger groups. |
| P2P | Penis to Pussy. Penis to Penis. Pussy to Pussy. Pay to Play (Prostitution). |
| PA | Prince Albert. A piercing of the penis head. |
| Pansexual | Sexual attraction toward any gender identity/biology. |
| Passable | Usually in reference to cross-dressers, where they can reasonably resemble the opposite gender. |
| PAWG | Phat Assed White Girl. Usually a woman with slim frame, but large hips and buttocks. |
| Pearl Necklace | Male ejaculate around the neck and chest area of a sexual partner. |
| Pegging | Typically refers to a woman using a strap-on dildo in her male partner's anus. |
| Pillow Princess | A woman that receives sexual gratification, typically oral, and does not reciprocate at all. |
| PNP | Party and Play. Whether in a club or private residence, an opportunity to drink and have sex. |
| Polyamory | An intimate relationship with multiple, consenting partners. |
| Pop | Achieving orgasm. |
| Prince Albert | Sometimes abbreviated as "PA". Pierced head of a penis. |
| PS | Pussy Slide. Vulva rubbed against a penis, usually length-wise on the underside with no penetration. |
| PSE | Porn Star Experience |
| PWA | Pussy, Weed, Alcohol. |
| QOS | Queen of Spades. Usually white women wanting sex only with black men. |
| Quickie | Get in, get off, get out. Quick sex with no foreplay or other activity. |
| Raincoat | Condom |
| Raw | Another term for Bareback. Sex without a condom. |
| RC | Reverse Cow Girl |
| RCA | Reverse Cowgirl Anal |
| RCG | Cow Girl sexual position with girl on top facing away |
| Red Wings | The marks left on the face of a person performing cunnilingus with a woman during her period. |
| Reverse Cowgirl | Same as Cowgirl, but she is facing away from her partner. |
| Reverse Half & Half | Intercourse followed with oral to completion. |
| Rimming | Licking the anus. Also known as anilingus. |
| Roman | Term applied to a person that prefers group sex. |
| RPG | Role Playing Game |
| RR | Reciprocation Required. |
| Russian | Penis rubbed between breasts. (Titty fuck) Sometimes used to describe a quickie. |
| Sadist | A person that gets sexual pleasure from causing pain to others. |
| Safe Word | A code word agreed in advance for BDSM play, letting the partner know there is a problem and to stop activities. Sometimes a second safe word is used to warn that the limit is being approached. |
| Same Room Swap | Usually full swap, but in the same room. |
| SBF | Single Black Female |
| SBM | Single Black Male |
| SC | Strip Club |
| Scat | Sex involving fecal matter. |
| SFH | Sex For Hire |
| Shemale | Man that has developed breasts through surgery or use of hormones, but still has penis and testicles. |
| Shibari | Bondage with ropes. |
| Silver | Often used to describe people in their 50's or older. |
| Sloppy Seconds | Intercourse with an orifice (usually a vagina) already containing another man's ejaculate. |
| SLS | SwingLifeStyle web-site. |
| Slut | Sexually promiscuous person with multiple partners and high sexual drive. Sometimes interchanged with more derogatory "Whore" (prostitute). |
| Smegma | A residue substance that builds up under the foreskin of a penis or within the folds of a vulva. Tends to have a strong unpleasant smell and taste. Also called "cheese". |
| Snow Bunny | White woman that prefers and maintains relations with black men. |
| Soft Swap | Couples that practice same room experiences usually up through oral sex with swapped partners, but intercourse only with their own partner. |
| SOMF | Sat/sit On My Face |
| SP | Service Provider. |
| Spinner | Sexual connotation for a young, petite, skinny girl. |
| spit roast | Three people having sex, where the person in the middle (male or female) is being penetrated by men at either end of them. Also called a lathe. |
| Spunk | Slang for male ejaculate. |
| squirrel | A promiscous man who constantly seeks sexual pleasure with the goal of nutting (ejaculation). |
| Squirting | A form of female ejaculate, where she releases a large volume of liquid during orgasm. There is much controversy about the source of the liquid. |
| SRDP | Same Room Different Partner |
| SRSP | Same Room Same Partner. |
| SSBBW | Super-Sized Big Beautiful Woman |
| STB | Sluts To Bang. Shake The Bed. |
| STD | Sexually Transmitted Disease. |
| STI | Sexually Transmitted Infection |
| STR | Short Term Relationship |
| STR8 | Straight |
| Sub | Submissive/passive partner in Domination. |
| SW | Street Walker. Hooker. |
| Swap | Sexually speaking, the sharing of sexual partners. This is often partner for partner, like wife-swapping. |
| SWF | Single White Female |
| SWM | Single White Male |
| Sybian | Brand name for a masturbation device designed for women to use cowgirl style. Generic term for similar devices manufactured by other companies. |
| Tamakeri | BDSM fetish where a man's testicles are abused. |
| Teabag | Testicles dipped into partner's mouth. |
| TG | Transgender. Person who's gender identity does not match their genetic/birth gender. |
| Top | Person in the dominant role in a dominant relationship. Person performing the sexual act in a same gender relations. |
| TP | Tanning Parlor |
| Tranny | A transgender or transsexual person. |
| TS | Transexual. Person desiring to be the opposite gender as they are genetically. |
| TV | Transvestite. Person that dresses as the opposite sex. (aka cross-dresser) |
| Twink | Slang for a very young gay male. Often slim with very little body hair. Sometimes used to describe a very young female, in reference to relations with older men. |
| Unicorn | Single woman included in a couple's or group's sexual relations. |
| Vanilla | Non-lifestyle people. Similar to civilians or muggles. |
| VGL | Very Good Looking |
| Vibrator | Electronic sex toy that vibrates and is often shaped as a dildo for insertion or other shapes for surface contact. |
| Voluptuous | Curvy and usually well endowed. |
| Voyeur | Person that likes to watch other people naked or engaging in sex. |
| Water Sports | The act of urinating on partners as part of sexual activities. Also known as "Golden Showers". |
| WH | Well Hung. Generally used to describe a large penis. |
| WHP | Weight and Height Proportional. (Same as HWP) |
| Wrapped | Sex using a condom. |
| WS | Water Sports. urination in sexual activities. |
| WSW | White Street Walker |
| YMMV | Your Mileage May Vary. Experience changes with each recipient/partner. |
| YOLO | You Only Live Once. Generally will try anything. |